{"id":138,"date":"2022-03-10T13:52:00","date_gmt":"2022-03-10T13:52:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/?p=131"},"modified":"2022-03-10T13:52:00","modified_gmt":"2022-03-10T13:52:00","slug":"cum-sa-consolezi-o-persoana-apropiata-10-metode","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/?p=138","title":{"rendered":"Cum s\u0103 consolezi o persoan\u0103 apropiat\u0103 ? 10 metode"},"content":{"rendered":"

 De multe ori m\u0103 aflam \u00een situa\u021bia c\u00e2nd cineva de care \u00eemi p\u0103sa, avea un moment de criz\u0103. Emo\u021bional\u0103 sau nu neap\u0103rat, pl\u00e2ngea sau era stresat\u0103. \u00cen acel moment m\u0103 sim\u021beam aiurea. Pentru c\u0103 nu \u0219tiam cum s\u0103 reac\u021bionez \u00een a\u0219a momanet. Nu am fost \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat cum s\u0103 m\u0103 comport \u00een a\u0219a situa\u021bie sau cum s\u0103 consolez acea persoan\u0103. Mie \u00eemi p\u0103sa dar nu puteam face mare lucru. Atunci am \u00een\u021beles c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 fac ceva, nu e bine s\u0103 stai ca o piatr\u0103.<\/span><\/p>\n

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\u201eDespre doliu nu se vorbe\u0219te mai mult dec\u00e2t despre sex, credin\u021b\u0103 \u0219i chiar despre moarte\u201d, scrie Sheryl Sandberg, COO al Facebook-ului, \u00een cartea \u201ePlan B: Cum s\u0103 supravie\u021buie\u0219ti adversit\u0103\u021bii, s\u0103-\u021bi aduni putere \u0219i s\u0103 \u00eencepi s\u0103 tr\u0103ie\u0219ti din nou. .\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n


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Sandberg, \u00eempreun\u0103 cu copiii ei, a supravie\u021buit mor\u021bii so\u021bului ei \u0219i nu i-a fost team\u0103 s\u0103 fie sincer\u0103. Ea \u0219i-a adunat experien\u021ba, precum \u0219i rezultatele cercet\u0103rilor psihologilor, pentru a ajuta mii de oameni din \u00eentreaga lume s\u0103 fac\u0103 fa\u021b\u0103 propriei dureri.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u0218tim c\u00e2t de dificil poate fi s\u0103 sprijini o persoan\u0103 drag\u0103 care are probleme. Uneori, suferin\u021ba altora ne love\u0219te \u0219i mai tare dec\u00e2t propriile noastre greut\u0103\u021bi. \u0218i de foarte multe ori nu putem g\u0103si cuvintele potrivite pentru a consola \u0219i a p\u0103stra t\u0103cerea. Aici am adunat c\u00e2teva sfaturi pentru tine despre cum s\u0103 sprijini \u00een mod corespunz\u0103tor o persoan\u0103 care se confrunt\u0103 cu o adversitate.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Chiar \u0219i oamenii care au experimentat cea mai mare suferin\u021b\u0103 vor adesea s\u0103 vorbeasc\u0103 despre asta. C\u00e2nd suntem r\u0103ni\u021bi, trebuie s\u0103 \u0219tim dou\u0103 lucruri: c\u0103 sentimentele pe care le tr\u0103im sunt normale \u0219i c\u0103 avem pe cineva care s\u0103 ne sus\u021bin\u0103. Comport\u00e2ndu-ne fa\u021b\u0103 de oamenii suferinzi de parc\u0103 nimic nu s-ar fi \u00eent\u00e2mplat, \u00eei lipsim de acest lucru.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Salut\u0103ri comune precum \u201eCe mai faci?\u201d r\u0103nesc pentru c\u0103 oamenii care le spun nu par s\u0103 recunoasc\u0103 c\u0103 s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat ceva semnificativ. Dac\u0103, \u00een schimb, oamenii ar \u00eentreba \u201eCum te sim\u021bi ast\u0103zi?\u201d, ar ar\u0103ta c\u0103 \u00een\u021beleg c\u00e2t de greu este pentru o persoan\u0103 fiecare zi.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Nu toat\u0103 lumea este capabil\u0103 s\u0103 vorbeasc\u0103 cu u\u0219urin\u021b\u0103 despre o tragedie personal\u0103. Cu to\u021bii alegem c\u00e2nd \u0219i unde s\u0103 o facem \u0219i dac\u0103 s\u0103 o facem. Cu toate acestea, exist\u0103 dovezi puternice c\u0103 a vorbi sincer despre evenimente dificile poate fi benefic pentru s\u0103n\u0103tatea mental\u0103 \u0219i fizic\u0103. O astfel de conversa\u021bie cu un prieten sau un membru al familiei ajut\u0103 adesea s\u0103-\u0219i \u00een\u021beleag\u0103 propriile sentimente \u0219i s\u0103 se simt\u0103 \u00een\u021beles.<\/span><\/p>\n

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C\u00e2nd tragedie te love\u0219te,  de obicei descoperi c\u0103 nu mai e\u0219ti \u00eenconjurat de oameni – e\u0219ti \u00eenconjurat de banalit\u0103\u021bi. Cel mai bun lucru pe care \u00eel po\u021bi face este s\u0103 recuno\u0219ti. Spune direct cuvintele: \u201e\u00cen\u021beleg durerea ta. Sunt aproape\u201d.<\/p>\n

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P\u00e2n\u0103 nu recunoa\u0219tem problema, aceasta nu va disp\u0103rea. \u00cencerc\u00e2nd s\u0103 nu observe nimic, cei care sufer\u0103 se izoleaz\u0103, iar cei care le-ar putea oferi sprijin se \u00eendep\u0103rteaz\u0103. Ambele p\u0103r\u021bi trebuie s\u0103 mearg\u0103 una spre alta. Cuvintele sincere de simpatie sunt un \u00eenceput excelent. Problema nu va disp\u0103rea doar dup\u0103 dorin\u021ba ta, dar po\u021bi spune: \u201e\u00cen\u021beleg. V\u0103d cum suferi. \u0218i nu-mi este indiferent\u201d.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Pare firesc c\u0103 prietenii sunt \u00eentotdeauna gata s\u0103-i sus\u021bin\u0103 pe prieteni, dar exist\u0103 anumite bariere care \u00eempiedic\u0103 acest lucru. Exist\u0103 dou\u0103 tipuri de reac\u021bii emo\u021bionale la durerea altcuiva: empatia, care te motiveaz\u0103 s\u0103 aju\u021bi \u0219i anxietatea, care te face s\u0103 evi\u021bi sursa ei.<\/p>\n

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C\u00e2nd afl\u0103m c\u0103 o persoan\u0103 la care \u021binem \u0219i-a pierdut locul de munc\u0103, urmeaz\u0103 chimioterapie sau trece printr-un divor\u021b, la \u00eenceput ne g\u00e2ndim: \u201eTrebuie s\u0103 vorbim cu ea\u201d. Dar apoi, imediat dup\u0103 acest prim impuls, suntem vizita\u021bi de \u00eendoieli: \u201eDac\u0103 spun ceva gre\u0219it? Dac\u0103 nu se simte confortabil s\u0103 vorbeasc\u0103 despre asta? Sunt prea intruziv?”<\/span><\/p>\n

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C\u00e2nd apar aceste \u00eendoieli, ele duc la scuze precum: \u201eAre mul\u021bi prieteni \u0219i nu suntem at\u00e2t de apropia\u021bi\u201d. Sau: \u201eTrebuie s\u0103 fie foarte ocupat\u0103. Nu o mai deranja\u201d. Am\u00e2n\u0103m s\u0103 vorbim sau s\u0103 oferim ajutor p\u00e2n\u0103 c\u00e2nd \u00eencepem s\u0103 ne sim\u021bim vinova\u021bi pentru c\u0103 nu am f\u0103cut-o mai devreme… \u0219i apoi decidem c\u0103 este prea t\u00e2rziu.<\/p>\n

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Cei care se \u00eendep\u0103rteaz\u0103 de tine \u00een momente dificile \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103 se distan\u021beze de durerea emo\u021bional\u0103 dintr-un sentiment de autoap\u0103rare. Astfel de oameni, v\u0103z\u00e2nd cum cineva se \u00eeneac\u0103 \u00een durerea lor, se tem – poate \u00een mod subcon\u0219tient – c\u0103 \u0219i ei ar putea fi atra\u0219i \u00een acest abis.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Al\u021bii se simt neputincio\u0219i; simt c\u0103 nimic din ce pot spune sau face nu va \u00eembun\u0103t\u0103\u021bi situa\u021bia, a\u0219a c\u0103 decid s\u0103 nu spun\u0103 sau s\u0103 fac\u0103 nimic. Dar nu trebuie s\u0103 faci nimic ie\u0219it din comun. Doar s\u0103 treci \u00een vizit\u0103 la un prieten este foarte mult.<\/p>\n

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Nu exist\u0103 un singur mod de a te \u00eentrista, la fel cum nu exist\u0103 un singur mod de a te consola. Ceea ce ajut\u0103 o persoan\u0103 s-ar putea s\u0103 nu-l ajute pe altul, iar ceea ce ajut\u0103 ast\u0103zi s-ar putea s\u0103 nu ajute m\u00e2ine.<\/span><\/p>\n

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\u00cen copil\u0103rie, am fost \u00eenv\u0103\u021ba\u021bi s\u0103 respect\u0103m regula de aur: trata\u021bi-i pe ceilal\u021bi a\u0219a cum dori\u021bi s\u0103 fi\u021bi trata\u021bi. Dar c\u00e2nd cineva din apropiere sufer\u0103, trebuie s\u0103 urmezi regula platinei: trata\u021bi-i pe ceilal\u021bi a\u0219a cum ei ar dori s\u0103 fie trata\u021bi. Prinde\u021bi semnele \u0219i reac\u021biona\u021bi cu \u00een\u021belegere, sau chiar mai bine, reac\u021biona\u021bi prin ac\u021biune.<\/p>\n

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Ac\u021biunile concrete ajut\u0103, deoarece, de\u0219i nu rezolv\u0103 problema, reduc totu\u0219i daunele cauzate de aceasta. \u201eUnele lucruri din via\u021b\u0103 nu pot fi reparate. Dar ele trebuie experimentate\u201d, spune psihoterapeutul Megan Devine. Chiar \u0219i lucrurile mici, cum ar fi \u021binerea de m\u00e2n\u0103 a unei persoane, pot ajuta.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

De multe ori m\u0103 aflam \u00een situa\u021bia c\u00e2nd cineva de care \u00eemi p\u0103sa, avea un moment de criz\u0103. Emo\u021bional\u0103 sau nu neap\u0103rat, pl\u00e2ngea sau era stresat\u0103. \u00cen acel moment…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":2484,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"fifu_image_url":"","fifu_image_alt":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[9],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-138","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relatie"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/138","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=138"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/138\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/2484"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=138"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=138"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=138"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}