{"id":161,"date":"2021-11-22T12:18:00","date_gmt":"2021-11-22T12:18:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/?p=154"},"modified":"2021-11-22T12:18:00","modified_gmt":"2021-11-22T12:18:00","slug":"dorinta-de-a-fi-puternic-si-independent-cum-se-poate-intoarce-asupra-ta","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/?p=161","title":{"rendered":"Dorin\u021ba de a fi puternic \u0219i independent. Cum se poate \u00eentoarce asupra ta?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Uneori \u00eencrederea \u00een sine limiteaz\u0103 oportunit\u0103\u021bile \u0219i duce la epuizare.<\/p>\n

Independen\u021ba este pozi\u021bionat\u0103 ca o calitate excep\u021bional de bun\u0103. \u0218i pe bun\u0103 dreptate: o persoan\u0103 adult\u0103 capabil\u0103 ar trebui s\u0103 poat\u0103 avea grij\u0103 de sine.<\/p>\n

Dar conceptul de \u201eindependen\u021b\u0103\u201d este adesea distorsionat \u0219i exagerat, ceea ce \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 renun\u021bi complet la sprijin \u0219i s\u0103 faci fa\u021b\u0103 \u00een mod independent absolut oric\u0103rei situa\u021bii, chiar \u0219i una foarte dificil\u0103. Aceast\u0103 abordare poate fi foarte d\u0103un\u0103toare.<\/p>\n

De ce este periculos s\u0103 fii puternic \u0219i independent ?<\/h3>\n<\/p>\n
Psihologii consider\u0103 c\u0103 exist\u0103 o corela\u021bie direct\u0103 \u00eentre nivelul de satisfac\u021bie fa\u021b\u0103 de via\u021b\u0103 \u0219i capacitatea, \u00een caz de dificult\u0103\u021bi, de a avea \u00eencredere \u00een al\u021bi oameni, de a se baza pe ei.<\/div>\n
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\u00cen sens invers, func\u021bioneaz\u0103 \u0219i asta: dac\u0103 o persoan\u0103 \u00ee\u0219i dovede\u0219te violent statutul de puternic \u0219i independent, risc\u0103 s\u0103 fie izolat, ceea ce la r\u00e2ndul s\u0103u poate duce la depresie. Dar aceasta nu este singura problem\u0103.<\/p>\n

Acest lucru duce la epuizare.<\/h3>\n
\u201eDin moment ce sunt independent, trebuie s\u0103 fac totul singur. Nu cere ajutor, nu deleg sarcini, nu \u00eencerc s\u0103 le u\u0219urez.\u201d Cei care iau independen\u021ba la propriu sunt ghida\u021bi de aceast\u0103 logic\u0103. A\u0219a \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103 munceasc\u0103 singuri – la serviciu \u0219i acas\u0103, refuz\u0103 ajutorul, nu \u00ee\u0219i permit s\u0103 se relaxeze.<\/div>\n
Acest lucru duce la oboseal\u0103 extraordinar\u0103, stres emo\u021bional \u0219i, \u00een cele din urm\u0103, la epuizare.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Te lipse\u0219te de oportunit\u0103\u021bile interesante.<\/h3>\n
Oamenii care nu cer niciodat\u0103 ajutor sunt mai pu\u021bin probabil s\u0103 fac\u0103 conexiuni bune, s\u0103 \u00eenve\u021be ceva nou sau s\u0103 primeasc\u0103 o ofert\u0103 interesant\u0103.<\/div>\n
De exemplu, o persoan\u0103 \u00ee\u0219i caut\u0103 un loc de munc\u0103. Poate merge imediat pe site-ul cu posturi vacante sau poate mai \u00eent\u00e2i s\u0103 \u00eentrebe de la prieteni, s\u0103 \u00eentrebe abona\u021bii din re\u021belele de socializare \u0219i s\u0103 le cear\u0103 s\u0103-\u0219i reposteze CV-ul.<\/p>\n

Ri\u0219ti s\u0103 r\u0103m\u00e2i singur.<\/h3>\n
Unii cred c\u0103 \u00een niciun caz nu trebuie s\u0103 depind\u0103 de al\u021bi oameni, nu doar financiar, ci \u0219i emo\u021bional. \u0218i orice rela\u021bie apropiat\u0103 este o adev\u0103rat\u0103 dependen\u021b\u0103. Devii mai vulnerabil, planurile \u0219i obiectivele trebuie ajustate \u00een conformitate cu obiectivele \u0219i planurile partenerului t\u0103u.<\/div>\n
O persoan\u0103 care dore\u0219te s\u0103 fie independent\u0103 poate ra\u021biona \u00een acest fel \u0219i va evita cu grij\u0103 intimitatea. Aceasta \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 risc\u0103 s\u0103 construiasc\u0103 un zid at\u00e2t de gros \u00een jurul s\u0103u, \u00eenc\u00e2t nimeni s\u0103 nu-l poat\u0103 sparge.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

Nu dai fr\u00e2u liber sentimentelor.<\/h3>\n

Independent \u00eenseamn\u0103 s\u0103 f\u0103r\u0103 sl\u0103biciune. Nu po\u021bi recunoa\u0219te c\u0103 te sim\u021bi r\u0103u \u0219i trist, te compor\u021bi dup\u0103 principiul \u201ez\u00e2mbesc \u0219i sunt bine\u201d \u0219i, \u00een general, ar\u0103\u021bi \u00een orice mod posibil c\u0103 ai totul sub control. Singura problem\u0103 este c\u0103 blocarea emo\u021biilor negative poate duce la depresie \u0219i alte tulbur\u0103ri mentale.<\/p>\n

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Ce \u00eenseamn\u0103 s\u0103 fii dependent \u0219i de ce nu este \u00eentotdeauna r\u0103u ?<\/h3>\n

Nu exist\u0103 nimic teribil \u00een dependen\u021ba moderat\u0103 de al\u021bi oameni, asta nu te face o persoan\u0103 slab\u0103 \u0219i inutil\u0103. A fi dependent moderat de cineva nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 a sta pe g\u00e2tul ei \u0219i a refuza s\u0103-\u0219i rezolve singur problemele. De fapt, aceasta este capacitatea de a avea \u00eencredere \u00een alt\u0103 persoan\u0103, de a te baza pe ea, de a-i cere sprijin \u0219i ajutor dac\u0103 este nevoie, de a recunoa\u0219te c\u0103 nu e\u0219ti atotputernic, c\u0103 ai dreptul s\u0103 te deschizi, s\u0103 nu \u0219tii ceva, s\u0103 nu faci fa\u021b\u0103 situa\u021biei. \u0218i aceast\u0103 abordare, potrivit psihologilor, are avantajele ei.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n

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    Ce \u00eenseamn\u0103 pentru tine s\u0103 fii puternic \u0219i independent? \u00cemp\u0103rt\u0103\u0219e\u0219te-\u021bi p\u0103rerea \u00een comentarii!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    Uneori \u00eencrederea \u00een sine limiteaz\u0103 oportunit\u0103\u021bile \u0219i duce la epuizare.Independen\u021ba este pozi\u021bionat\u0103 ca o calitate excep\u021bional de bun\u0103. \u0218i pe bun\u0103 dreptate: o…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":2377,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"fifu_image_url":"","fifu_image_alt":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[11],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-161","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spiritualitate"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/161","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=161"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/161\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/2377"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=161"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=161"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=161"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}