{"id":214,"date":"2018-01-05T01:01:00","date_gmt":"2018-01-05T01:01:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/?p=207"},"modified":"2018-01-05T01:01:00","modified_gmt":"2018-01-05T01:01:00","slug":"cum-sa-te-contrazici-cu-o-fata","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/?p=214","title":{"rendered":"Cum s\u0103 te contrazici cu o fat\u0103…"},"content":{"rendered":"
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S\u0103 \u0219tii c\u0103 nu te va face mai b\u0103rbat faptul c\u0103 te vei contrazice ca un copil mic cu o fat\u0103. B\u0103rbatul trebuie s\u0103 rezolve \u00eentrebarea prin ac\u021biune \u0219i nu prin cuv\u00e2nt ( \u0219i nu am \u00een vedere de b\u0103taie sau ceart\u0103, ar fi \u00eenjositor pentru un b\u0103rbat). \u00cen ultimul r\u00e2nd ai putea apela la ceva mult mai folositor, la ce anume, \u00ee\u021bi zic acum<\/span><\/div>\n

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1. Mergi \u00een \u00eent\u00e2mpinare<\/span><\/b><\/div>\n

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S\u0103 te contrazici cu o fat\u0103 e ca \u0219i cum ai turna benzin\u0103 pe foc. Mai ales c\u0103 ea e mult mai impulsiv\u0103 \u0219i mult mai emotiv\u0103. Multe ori g\u00e2nde\u0219te cu emo\u021biile \u0219i nu folose\u0219te logica. \u0218i prin a merge \u00een \u00eent\u00e2mpinare nu am \u00een vedere ca s\u0103 te compor\u021bi la fel ca \u0219i ea pentru c\u0103 ve\u021bi ajunge s\u0103 v\u0103 certa\u021bi.<\/span><\/div>\n
\u00cens\u0103 este o metod\u0103 de a \u00eenvinge. Nu \u00eencerca s\u0103 te cer\u021bi sau s\u0103 fii \u00eenc\u0103p\u0103\u021binat, mai bine spune sigur \u0219i calm: – — Scumpa mea, ai dreptate.<\/span><\/div>\n
Ce? Nu te-ai a\u0219teptat la un astfel de sfat? Nici ea nu se va a\u0219tepta la a\u0219a reac\u021bie.<\/span><\/div>\n
Astfel de r\u0103spuns o va calma \u0219i pe ea. Chiar dac\u0103 tu aveai dreptate, ea va crede c\u0103 a \u00eenvins b\u0103t\u0103lia \u0219i astfel apele se vor limpezi.<\/span><\/div>\n
Zii c\u0103 \u00eei respec\u021bi p\u0103rerea \u0219i pentru ca conflictul s\u0103 nu mocneasc\u0103 ca un j\u0103ratic, ai putea s\u0103 zici ceva de genul: Pe deoparte tu ai dreptate dar hai s\u0103 analiz\u0103m situa\u021bia mai bine, te rog. Iar mai departe spune-i ce crezi despre acel subiect dar fii c\u00e2t se poate de neutru \u00een discu\u021bia ce va urma.<\/span><\/div>\n

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2. Nu ar\u0103ta c\u0103 nu ai \u00een\u021beles ce are \u00een vedere<\/b><\/span><\/div>\n

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Fetele la emo\u021bii pot fi foarte neclare. Nici nu te g\u00e2ndi s\u0103 te dai de gol c\u0103 nu ai \u00een\u021beles-o. Pentru c\u0103 \u00eendat\u0103 spre tine vor zbura argumente gen c\u0103 nu e\u0219ti atent, c\u0103 mereu nu \u021bi-a p\u0103sat, c\u0103 te las\u0103 \u0219i pleac\u0103 la mama sa \u0219i c\u0103 mai bine se \u00eent\u00e2lnea cu altcineva dec\u00e2t cu un ratat ca tine…<\/span><\/div>\n
Dac\u0103 tu nu ai \u00een\u021beles ceva, mai bine \u00eentreab\u0103 ce are \u00een vedere sau roag\u0103 s\u0103 fie mai explicit\u0103.<\/span><\/div>\n

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3. Fii calm \u0219i iar calm…<\/b><\/span><\/div>\n

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Pentru \u00eenceput va trebui s\u0103 o ascul\u021bi p\u00e2n\u0103 la urm\u0103. Nu \u00eencerca s\u0103 o \u00eentrerupi chiar dac\u0103 ceea ce zice ea, nu are sens sau leg\u0103tur\u0103. Dar \u00eenainte ca s\u0103 se \u00eenceap\u0103 acest mic haos, zii c\u0103 o ascul\u021bi doar dac\u0103 \u0219i ea te va asculta dup\u0103. A\u0219a propunere nimeni nu ar refuza.<\/span><\/div>\n
Nici \u00eentr-un caz nu striga la ea \u0219i nu o presa. Pentru c\u0103 ea va \u00eencepe s\u0103 pl\u00e2ng\u0103. Tu te vei considera idiot. Ea te va considera idiot \u0219i ambii vezi fi de aceia\u0219i p\u0103rere.<\/span><\/div>\n
Dac\u0103 ea strig\u0103 la tine, d\u0103-i de \u00een\u021beles c\u0103 nu se merit\u0103 cearta aceasta.<\/span><\/div>\n
Astfel ea va \u00een\u021belege c\u0103 \u00eentrece limitele \u0219i deja ve\u021bi putea discuta calm despre. Probabil c\u0103 ea va recunoa\u0219te c\u0103 nu avea dreptate.<\/span><\/div>\n

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4. Logica feminin\u0103<\/b><\/span><\/div>\n

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C\u00e2nd te contrazici cu o fat\u0103, nu uita c\u0103 are logic\u0103 feminin\u0103. Dar nu e un motiv pentru care s\u0103 o critici! Doamne fere\u0219te s\u0103 zici ce gen: Offff, ce logic\u0103….! sau: Tu te g\u00e2nde\u0219ti ce zici? Unde e logica? At\u00e2ta doar \u0219i ea se va considera proast\u0103 iar tu te vei considera un nemernic. Varianta aceasta te va face s\u0103 pierzi.<\/span><\/div>\n
Sau spune-i ce de\u0219teapt\u0103 e \u0219i la fel, doar at\u00e2ta \u00ee\u021bi trebuie, un pic de sarcasm \u0219i e\u0219ti out.<\/span><\/div>\n

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C\u00e2nd te contrazici cu ea, mai bine d\u0103-i exemple ferme \u0219i concrete. Pentru c\u0103 o fat\u0103 c\u00e2nd merge \u00eempotriva ta apoi mereu va g\u0103si problem\u0103 \u00een orice. A\u0219a c\u0103, f\u0103r\u0103 metafore! Iar exemplele pe care i le dai ar trebui c\u00e2t se poate de reale.<\/span><\/div>\n
Vorbe\u0219te scurt, clar \u0219i cuprinz\u0103tor. <\/span><\/div>\n
Tot ce trebuie – e s\u0103 aborda\u021bi problema calm.<\/span><\/div>\n

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5. Calea retragerii<\/span><\/b><\/div>\n

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Dac\u0103 totul este at\u00e2t de aprig, \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103 faci o mic\u0103 glum\u0103. E adev\u0103rat faptul c\u0103 b\u0103ie\u021bii care au un bun sim\u021b al umorului, ar putea glumi cu ceva \u0219i astfel s\u0103 fug\u0103 de la subiect rezolv\u00e2nd foarte simplu situa\u021bia. Sper c\u0103 am fost clar. Succes! <\/span><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

S\u0103 \u0219tii c\u0103 nu te va face mai b\u0103rbat faptul c\u0103 te vei contrazice ca un copil mic cu o fat\u0103. B\u0103rbatul trebuie s\u0103 rezolve \u00eentrebarea prin ac\u021biune \u0219i nu prin…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":2431,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"fifu_image_url":"","fifu_image_alt":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[9],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-214","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relatie"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/214","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=214"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/214\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/2431"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=214"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=214"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=214"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}