{"id":56,"date":"2023-04-07T08:18:00","date_gmt":"2023-04-07T08:18:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/?p=49"},"modified":"2023-04-07T08:18:00","modified_gmt":"2023-04-07T08:18:00","slug":"cum-sa-scapi-de-nevoia-de-a-fi-pe-placul-tuturor","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/?p=56","title":{"rendered":"Cum s\u0103 scapi de nevoia de a fi pe placul tuturor"},"content":{"rendered":"

G\u00e2ndul c\u0103 nu vei l\u0103sa o impresie bun\u0103 str\u0103inilor poate s\u0103-\u021bi complice via\u021ba.<\/p>\n

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Imagineaz\u0103-\u021bi c\u0103 e\u0219ti ca o pat\u0103 de cerneal\u0103<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

Aminte\u0219te-\u021bi de celebrul test psihologic Rorschach<\/a>, \u00een timpul c\u0103ruia trebuie s\u0103 te ui\u021bi la imaginea unei pete de cerneal\u0103 \u0219i s\u0103 descrii ceea ce vezi. \u0218i apoi \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103 te imaginezi ca pe o astfel de pat\u0103 pe h\u00e2rtie. Ceea ce vede cealalt\u0103 persoan\u0103 spune mai mult despre sine dec\u00e2t despre pata de cerneal\u0103 – adic\u0103 despre tine. Calit\u0103\u021bile care vor provoca simpatie la o persoan\u0103, dimpotriv\u0103, o vor enerva pe alta.<\/span><\/p>\n

Modul \u00een care te percep al\u021bii depinde \u00een mare m\u0103sur\u0103 de c\u00e2te calit\u0103\u021bi v\u0103d \u00een ei \u00een\u0219i\u0219i \u00een comun cu tine. Potrivit cercet\u0103torilor, ne plac mai mult oamenii care au un caracter asem\u0103n\u0103tor cu noi \u00een\u0219ine. \u00cen timpul experimentului, acest lucru a fost vizibil \u00een special \u00een r\u00e2ndul persoanelor cu calit\u0103\u021bi nedorite. Cu c\u00e2t un participant era mai nervos sau temperat, cu at\u00e2t era mai probabil ca ei s\u0103 evalueze pozitiv oamenii cu acelea\u0219i caracteristici.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Aminti\u021bi-v\u0103, v\u0103 pute\u021bi controla doar comportamentul, nu personalitatea sau preferin\u021bele celeilalte persoane.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n


G\u00e2nde\u0219te-te la factorii pe care necunoscu\u021bi<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n<\/p>\n

Pe l\u00e2ng\u0103 personalitatea ta, mul\u021bi al\u021bi factori influen\u021beaz\u0103 percep\u021bia celorlal\u021bi. Fiecare are treburile lui, problemele, starea de spirit. Cineva poate avea o zi grea la serviciu, o ceart\u0103 cu cei dragi sau doar o list\u0103 uria\u0219\u0103 de lucruri de f\u0103cut. To\u021bi ace\u0219ti factori necunoscu\u021bi vor afecta modul \u00een care cealalt\u0103 persoan\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi r\u0103spunde, dar nu au nimic de-a face cu tine personal. Uneori este bine s\u0103-\u021bi aminte\u0219ti de nesemnifica\u021bia ta. <\/p>\n

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Identific\u0103-\u021bi gre\u0219elile de g\u00e2ndire<\/span><\/b><\/p>\n<\/p>\n

De multe ori c\u0103dem prad\u0103 distorsiunilor cognitive. Atribuim celorlal\u021bi g\u00e2nduri negative despre noi, lu\u0103m toate cuvintele \u0219i reac\u021biile lor pe cheltuiala noastr\u0103, prezent\u0103m cel mai r\u0103u scenariu posibil. Se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 incon\u0219tient.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00cencerc\u0103 s\u0103 \u00een\u021belegi la ce distorsiuni e\u0219ti supus. Ce presupuneri faci de obicei despre tine \u0219i despre ceilal\u021bi? Ce iei deseori de bun? C\u00e2t de corect e\u0219ti? Observ\u0103 ce g\u00e2nduri ai \u00eenainte, \u00een timpul \u0219i dup\u0103 conversa\u021bie. Fii sincer cu tine \u00eensu\u021bi, \u00eencerc\u00e2nd s\u0103-\u021bi dai seama ce \u021bi-ar fi putut distorsiona percep\u021bia.<\/span><\/p>\n


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Distinge negativul de neutru<\/span><\/b><\/p>\n

Incertitudinea ne face incomod. C\u00e2nd o persoan\u0103 nu trimite nici semnale \u00een mod deschis prietenoase, nici \u00een mod deschis ostile, ne este dificil s\u0103-i determin\u0103m atitudinea. Prin urmare, interpret\u0103m o mul\u021bime de conversa\u021bii complet neutre ca fiind negative. \u00cen astfel de situa\u021bii, trebuie s\u0103 ne baz\u0103m pe viziunea noastr\u0103 asupra lumii.<\/span><\/p>\n


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Dac\u0103 viziunea ta despre lume include ideea c\u0103 oamenii te resping mereu, vei observa asta tot timpul.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

C\u00e2nd vezi pe cineva care se ocup\u0103 doar de treburile sale, vei crede c\u0103 te evit\u0103. Aceasta se manifest\u0103 ca o sensibilitate crescut\u0103 la neglijare. Este mai tipic nu pentru \u00eent\u00e2lnirea cu str\u0103ini, ci pentru comunicarea cu cei cu care \u00eei cuno\u0219ti de mult timp sau abia \u00eencepi o rela\u021bie.<\/span><\/p>\n


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Aminte\u0219te-\u021bi c\u0103 circumstan\u021bele sunt \u00eempotriva ta<\/span><\/b><\/p>\n

Imagineaz\u0103-\u021bi c\u0103 ar trebui s\u0103 comunici cu toate cele 7 miliarde din popula\u021bia lumii. C\u00e2te procente dintre ace\u0219ti oameni te-ar g\u0103si o persoan\u0103 dr\u0103gu\u021b\u0103? Evident, nu 100%. Este o bun\u0103 reamintire c\u0103 \u00een via\u021b\u0103 vei \u00eent\u00e2lni inevitabil oameni care nu te plac.<\/span><\/p>\n

De exemplu, aproximativ 70% din popula\u021bie te-ar dori. Apoi, ceilal\u021bi 30% nu te-ar pl\u0103cea, adic\u0103 aproximativ 2 miliarde de oameni. \u0218i te pot \u00eent\u00e2lni oriunde.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/p>\n

Aminte\u0219te-\u021bi c\u0103 circumstan\u021bele sunt \u00eempotriva ta: oricum cineva nu te va pl\u0103cea. Tot ce trebuie s\u0103 faci este s\u0103 accep\u021bi \u0219i s\u0103 mergi mai departe.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

G\u00e2ndul c\u0103 nu vei l\u0103sa o impresie bun\u0103 str\u0103inilor poate s\u0103-\u021bi complice via\u021ba.Imagineaz\u0103-\u021bi c\u0103 e\u0219ti ca o pat\u0103 de cerneal\u0103Aminte\u0219te-\u021bi de celebrul test psihologic…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":2295,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"fifu_image_url":"","fifu_image_alt":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[8],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-56","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-psihologie"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/56","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=56"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/56\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/2295"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=56"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=56"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/valuestream.club\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=56"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}